Analysis in conversation

Conversation is an important aspect of human life. People converse on a daily basis about infinite number of topics, infinite subjects and of course in infinite ways. But whatever the type of conversation, more often than not, very little thought goes into them. If it is an argument about something, constructive or destructive, the usual tendency is to reply with a solid point. A sharp reply. People always say be straightforward. Have a fixed view. Do not change your opinion on the basis of the thoughts of others. So following this wisdom of the old, we argue and argue and blurt out our opinion, without any deviation or noticeable change in any retort whatsoever. Thus starts the frustration, why doesn't the other person get what you are trying to say? Weren't you clear enough? Solid enough? Loud enough? This is where I feel analysis comes in. Sometimes we just have to hold our tongue. Pace ourselves. Stay true to the end objective. Not to take a step back to look at the bigger perspective as some might say. Of course the latter is necessary in cases that the situation is fragile and needs fixing, but nothing of that sort is affordable when we are trying to make an argument and prove a point. Instead of a step back we stop and just wait and listen. Listen to their words and find what you disagree with. Quote their words in your reply. Tell them that is what they said and this is what you think is wrong with that. I think this would lead to the other person understanding better of what you are trying to convince them. A more productive argument. Now, the other forms of conversation also can use this form of analysis. When we take a second and think a bit differently, not the usual " what do I say now?". Rather "how do I say this in a way he or she will be forced to see my point of view?". All of a sudden we'll find that we have a larger choice of words and different approaches we could possibly take. The more options we have, the more number of approaches we could take, so this means that we would never have nothing to say. We can respond to anything better, because we are basically scavenging of what they told us. In fact this kind of analysis would also help us sound more dramatic and every reply would feel like a killer line from a movie. The more we practice this, the more information we can absorb within a shorter time. Also such analysis can also teach us a persons quirks ,go to lines, thoughts, and most importantly tell us what future approach we can take to convince the person something easily. Our brain can hold all this subtle information and process it all without wiping out the basic idea from your mind. In fact a socially awkward human being who always checks what others think about him or her, will usually be more effective at making a point. They tend to be more vigilant. They think their words through and only then say it. They tend to observe around. They would know how people would react to anything they say. So when they say something, it would usually appeal to everyone. This doesn't mean being socially awkward is something completely positive, but it does have this skill to be envied upon. Any person can imbibe this skill with a bit of patience and it can be extremely helpful during meetings, arguments or family squabbles. It can serve you well also when you try to please someone. Analysis gives us adaptability. Adaptability means no matter how hostile the situation gets, we can talk our way out of it. So analysis in conversation, a beautiful skill to be attained by all.